How do I do this?Apr 29, 2022
How many times in your life after loss have you wondered, how am I supposed to do this?
A step-by-step guide would certainly be nice when a spouse passes: a type of owner’s manual that tells you exactly how to start making all the decisions and doing double the tasks, all while living in your darkest days.
The two of you were a team, relying on each other to handle all the responsibilities, collaborate on the decisions, and then have each other’s back, no matter the outcome. You outsourced certain things to him, and he to you.
Now you find yourself obsessing over the decisions and delaying taking action for fear of making the wrong move.
In my client Nancy’s marriage, her husband handled the finances. When he passed suddenly, she found herself with investments to manage and big financial decisions to make. She wanted to take action but felt paralyzed in uncertainty.
Ultimately Nancy sold her home and bought a home in an area that she loves. And she made thousands of smaller decisions in the process.
She learned to make a decision because she liked her reasons, and then have her own back.
Nancy went from knowing little about her finances to making bold financial decisions. In other words, she went from asking herself, how do I do this? to figuring it out, one step at a time.
You can, too.
Step one is to identify the voids he filled for you, then, learn how to still borrow from him and also begin to fill the voids yourself.
You’ll learn how to do this by allowing yourself to be a student of the process, by not judging yourself for missteps, and by believing that you can.
My six-month coaching program called Life Reconstructed is designed exclusively for widowed people who are ready to invest in themselves so they can start taking action and rebuild a life worth living. If that’s you, simply click here and we’ll see if it’s a fit.
Simply click here and we'll see if it's a fit.
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